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Friday, March 28, 2008

Is My Man Cheating? Whether Cheating Husbands or Cheating Boyfriends, Here's How To Find Out Fast

By Doug Young

Is my man cheating, you're wondering. Whether it's cheating husbands or cheating boyfriends the warning signs and ways to confirm your suspicions are the same. You have that awful feeling that he's up to no good behind your back but you just can't be certain since you've got no proof. You've tried to confront him and his denials just don't seem that convincing.

The truth is, 80% of the people involved in a medium to long-term relationship suspect that their partner is cheating. What's even worse is that 50% of these suspicions turn out to be correct.

So how do I follow up on my suspicions, you may well be asking. Is my man cheating on me, and how do I find out? Here are 7 things you need to be doing and looking out for to get you some quick answers:

1. Your own lie detection test

Cheating husbands and cheating boyfriends more often than not will be telling you a stream of constant lies to cover their tracks. According to the statistics, for every one lie you tell you need to tell at least two more to cover it up. So you can use that to your advantage. Sooner or later he will slip up, and you need to be on the lookout for that.

Always take note of everything your boyfriend or husband has said. For example, if he gets home late one night, ask for the reason and make a note of it. Let a week or two pass then try innocently throwing into the conversation a question about that night and check if his answers are still the same. The important thing here is that every time you have a gut feeling that he's lying, make a mental note of everything he says. You'll be able to use that in the future.

2. Look out for the defensive mode

Cheating partners have a tendency to be in defensive mode. If questions like, "what time will you be home?" or "who were you at lunch with?" makes him overreact, then there's a good chance that he's up to no good.

Another indication is that 'alleged' cheating husbands or cheating boyfriends will try to turn the tables so that you'll feel guilty for asking such questions. The most common retorts are "You really don't trust me do you?", or "Why do you not trust me?"

3. There's no smoke without fire

There are times when you base your suspicions on rumours that you've heard. Some people may tell you that you shouldn't believe in rumours because that's all they are. But rumours have to start somewhere. So if there's a rumour flying around that your man is cheating on you, there's a chance that it could be true.

It's not advisable of course to come to a 100% conclusion that your husband or boyfriend is cheating on you basing on rumours. But be aware of them when you're checking out your suspicions.

4. More Talkative Than Usual

Does he talk about a female, perhaps a colleague or a co-worker, more often than usual? This talk does not necessarily need to be all good. It could also be derogatory comments about her when comparing her to you to deliberately throw you off the trail. If this is the case, then there's a chance that he's cheating. Talking about a certain someone all the time means that that person is always in his thoughts. This should certainly give you reasons to be suspicious.

5. Talk to his friends

This is one of the most effective ways to know whether your man is cheating on you or not. Talk to his friends and be inquisitive. This is better done individually than to a group since it's just natural for a friend to try and lookout for his buddy. You ask questions to one of his friends then ask the same questions to another. By doing this, you can see whether their replies are consistent or not.

6. "I'm going on a business trip"

This may be one of the oldest cover up tricks in the book yet it's still one of the most effective even today. It's true of course that certain jobs involve travel but if all of a sudden that becomes more regular or he starts going away on business trips when he never did before you may have good grounds for raising your suspicions.

7. Is my man cheating? The ultimate way to find out.

Hire a private investigator. This is the most effective way to blow the whistle on cheating husbands and cheating boyfriends. This method involves considerable expense so you need to have goods grounds for suspicion in the first place and also you need to be prepared for the truth.

There's a big difference emotionally between suspecting that your man is cheating on you and knowing for sure that he is. So you need to be ready for that.

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Thursday, March 20, 2008

A Lifetime Sex Relationship with Your Partner

By Jerry Leung

There are not much discussions on the sex life for people who are in their later years of lives. In fact, even elderly couples may have an excellent sex life.

There are a lot of misconceptions regarding sex for seniors. For example there are people saying that elderly will not want sex and they will not have sex. They just think that old people should never have sex. As a result, they will tend to believe that sex are only for young people. There are even some people believe that if old people think about sex, they are really dirty in their mind!

It can be sure that the above are all misconceptions. The truth is that human beings will need sexual lives even when they are old. We will need sex relationship with our partner for a lifetime!

As a matter of fact, surveys showing that elderly people think that sex is something very important. Of course they may only consider sex relationship with the partner. And the idea of casual sex simply does not apply to this situation. In fact, even people who are in their 80s think that sex relationship with the partner is very important.

However, we have to accept the truth that our bodies changes with time. We will especially realize this in the later years of our lives.

Taking a woman for example, it will probably take longer time for a senior woman to have her vagina lubricated. This is probably linking to the menopause. As you may be well aware, you may feel painful if it is not fully lubricated. As a result, you may need to apply some water based lubricants. Longer foreplay will also help. And most importantly, you should have intercourse from time to time!

On the other hand, an elderly man may find that it takes longer time for the penis to be totally erected. As in the case of a woman, a longer foreplay will greatly help. Of course you should try to be relaxed. You will find it will be worse if you cannot be relaxed. You may also try different sex positions since this will probably give you extra stimulation.

One last thing is that, making love or having sex is not something identical to having sexual intercourse. Things like kissing, oral sex or mutual masturbation can also give you pleasure and satisfaction. You will be have great sexual experience if you do not focus on intercourse only, even if you are a older person.

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Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Marriage - Companionship Or A Love Affair

By Kenneth Scott

A marriage is like any relationship and has its good times and bad, its agreements and disagreements. No one can expect everything to be wonderful at every minute of the day when two people from different backgrounds and with different feelings and expectations live together. Some marriages have serious problems that must be resolved through concentrated effort or even therapy, but most marriages just become boring over time.

When considering problems in a marriage, it is critical to think about what exactly is causing the conflict or uneasiness before taking any action. In many marriages, the excitement of first love tends to fade with time. This does not mean that the partners love each other any less. It just means that they need some stimulation to remember and maintain the feelings they used to have for one another. The stimulation is often referred to as romance. Many individuals think that a marriage that appears ordinary lacks love, but this is untrue. Most marriages lack romance. While love is an easy and peaceful feeling, romance is the element that makes a relationship hot!

Everyone in any kind of personal relationship wants passion and romance. However, there are some things about romance that people do not understand. The most common difficulty in creating romance is that people do not know how to accomplish it. Sometime, they are stuck in societal classifications, and their partners cannot appreciate them for their unique qualities. As a result, people often just give up on finding romance.

Today, when we are accustomed to convenience and having everything happen at the touch of a button, making an effort to create romance seems too difficult. However, you can take some really old-fashioned ideas about romance and make them work in our modern world. Romance in the 21st century can be alive with innovative ideas, passion, and creativity. Romance refers to the way you express your love for another, and it is necessary if you want to keep your love exciting and new. Without romance, love can become tiresome. Expressing your love through romance only works when it occurs without ulterior motives. Romance should only be initiated in order to show your love and appreciation for your partner.

Think of romance as an artistic creation rather than as a science. Individuals who feel they must compete in everything they do must eliminate that attitude when attempting to create romance. Love and romance should not be a contest where one partner or another strives to win. Romance requires cooperation, but you can be romantic while retaining your individuality. Love and romance can transform you and your partner into perfect companions.

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In Lack of Sexual Desire - What Are The Reasons?

By Jerry Leung

Sex life is very important for a relationship. It may lead to problems in your relationship if you are not satisfied with your sex life. It will be even worse if you find that you are in lack of sexual desire. As a result, we should try to find out the cause of the problem when it happens.

In fact, the problem can be due to both physical and psychological reasons. The lack of libido of women can be a problem. It is found that generally the lack of sexual desire happens more often to women than men. Some women will feel guilt after sex. If this happens, communication is one of the best ways to cure. As a man, you have to understand what your lady feel and think. It is important to know that a good relationship can make a lady feel more relaxed when having sex. And this may also arouse the sex interest of the lady. In return, the chance of losing sexual desire for the woman will be lower.

There are also other reasons that can lead to the lack in sexual desire. As mentioned, one of the reasons can be the communication of the couple. The lack of communication can lead to the problem of having no sexual desire. Another reason can be the anxiety about sex. People will tend to have no interest in sex if they have some unpleasant experience about sex before. If this is the case, you may even need to seek for the help of a psychologist.

Some people will have no interest in sex because of the fear of being infected by sexually transmitted diseases. If you find that you partner has this problem, you can try to explain him or her about safe sex. Urge them to use condoms as protection. If he or she is your one and only one sex partner, you should also tell this to him or her so that there will be less anxiety about STDs infection. Besides the above, the pressure at work can also lead to the problem of having no sexual desire. Try to tell him / her to be relaxed and do not think too much about the work if this happens.

Again, the best solution to cure the problem of having no sexual desire is always communication. In fact, communication can greatly enhance the relationship of the partners. And a great relationship will certainly lead to a great sex life!

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Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Maintaining a Passion-filled Marriage

By Rickie Smith

If you were to ask couples what's the best way for maintaining a passion-filled marriage it comes as no surprise to find that a lot of them believe that passion alone is the answer. They seem not to understand the need to balance out the emotional aspect of a marriage with the physical aspect of it.

You can't expect any spouse to have passion for his mate all the time. However, if couples focus on the way they feel about each other, in general it will be much easier to maintain the passion.

Many people think of marriage as being a state where two people who fall in love care about each other, and will live out their lives together until death do them part.

This is the ideal situation of course, but there are some marriages where the couple has gotten married for other reasons, and sometimes the wrong reasons. In these types of marriages there is often very little contact and sincere communication between the couple. This often results in a sexless marriage.

The key to maintaining a passion-filled marriage is totally honest with each other. Most couples will find that the desire for sex will comes and go but in order to be successful they must consider the things that they do both in and out of the bedroom.

Men and women must accept the fact that relationships change over time as our children take center stage in our lives and daily household responsibilities overwhelm us.

In many cases romance will give way to irritation and arguments. Here are some of the common reasons passion is lost in a marriage:
  • Couples stop listening to each other
  • They begin acting like roommates instead of lovers and partners
  • Each spouse complain about stress at work and home instead of positive things
  • Couples stop seeing and commenting on what they appreciate about their spouse
  • One or the other has given up their interests and passions so their lives become all work and therefore no fun
When it comes to maintaining a passion-filled marriage, you will find that there are so many things that you can do to rekindle and maintain that passion. One of the things you can do is to set a date night where you take the time to pay attention to each other.

The best way for a couple to turn a sexless marriage into a fulfilling marriage is to consistently work on ways to be alone with each other. During these times both spouses must learn to relax and leave the day's stresses behind.

Here are some other things each spouse can do to start turning things around:
  • Remind yourself of why you fell in love and married your mate
  • Stop feeling the need to argue and defend yourself
  • Identify at least one thing a day to complement your spouse on
  • Touch your spouse everyday... start with their hand or back and shoulder
  • Bring the humor back into your relationship, learn to laugh at yourself
Some marriage counselors will view differences in spouses as insurmountable. However, each partner in the marriage must believe that people and relationships can and do change for the better.

Your marriage is worth working on and you must be willing to do everything that you can to maintain your passion-filled marriage. Keep your relationship open and honest so that you both can trust each other and lean on each other for support.

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Thursday, March 6, 2008

Healthy Aging and Marriage

By Max Vogt

Aging is a fact of life; nothing that we do or say can really change this fact. As we all get older, our health is going to change as well; hopefully good health stays with our families and loved ones as long as possible, but sometimes we just aren't that lucky, and fate deals us a different hand than we expected. What exactly are we supposed to do? How should we deal with it?

Some people deal with aging better than others. Are you someone who wants to age gracefully or are you going to put up a fight? Is having your first grey hair or losing your last hair on your head the end of the world or is it going to be a day that you remember for the rest of your life?

If you have a spouse or long-term partner, you may notice that they are growing older. We often don't notice that we are getting older ourselves. In your partner you might see it on the number of hairs in his comb; the number of pairs of pants that she can't get into; or the new wrinkle that she had whenever she smiles is now on her face all the time now, even when she isn't smiling.

I have one client who is having a disagreement on what they think is the best way to age. Take a look at their story, and tell me what you think.

Bob and Kelly
Bob and Kelly have been married for more years than Kelly would admit it. In fact, if you subtracted the years that they were married from how old Kelly claims she is, she and Bob would have gotten married when Kelly was only 12. Kelly goes to the spa every week, won't step outside the door without a hat for fear of wrinkles and wants to get cosmetic surgery to make her face and body look even younger.

Bob says that she loves Kelly for the way that she is, and that she doesn't want her to change the way she looks too drastically, especially with something that has risks involved with it and could possibly be dangerous.

What do you think about this? Have you or your friends had an experience like this, where one person in the couple wants to stay young, while the other wants to just let nature take your course? This may not just include getting plastic surgery done or spa days, but can include getting a toupee, buying a fast sports car on your 50th birthday, dating a much younger man (or woman), or just trying to hang out more with your adult children and their friends.

If you are worried about the way that you are aging, one thing that might help is the Intimacy Paradox. This paradox is something that I've been sharing with my private clients for years. The principle is pretty easy to understand, and says that if you want to have a great marriage, you need to accept yourself 100% and you need to accept your partner 100% for who they are right now. If you plan on changing yourself or your partner when you (or they) don't want to, you will end up having resentment in your relationship.

Do you think that the Intimacy Paradox would work in Bob and Kelly's relationship? Would it work in yours? 100% acceptance of yourself and your partner may seem like it is difficult to do; what do you think that the most difficult thing to accept about your partner is going to be? Is there something that you don't think that you could accept about your partner?

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